As another Mother’s Day 2019 rolls around, I am excited to spend the day with my boys. As a young girl, I was never one to say “When I grow up, I want to have kids.” which is maybe why even all these years later (almost 16) I am in awe that the kids I have are mine. I have mentioned before while I like the “big” moments with my kids, my favorite ones are the smaller more personal ones. The unscripted ones that have no expectations and are not tied to a big event or celebration.
I love when my son, Jackson, comes into my room to show me how fast he can do the Rubik’s cube (fast!) and how he went to Youtube to research how to solve it. I love that he calls me in his room to show me how we built an application that is an online version of Mad Libs. I love when he logs onto my computer and orders a book from Amazon on starting a business and then decides to start one. I love that he takes it a step further and creates a business plan, gathers his friends, organizes the time to make the product and orders all the supplies himself but not before he creates a cost model. I love that although when he went door to door in a friend’s neighborhood and, he is crushed because the first person said “no” that I can share some basic sales skills I have learned through the years. 1. Sell to people you know first and 2. Sales is a numbers game. It isn’t more complicated than that.
I love when years ago he asked me if I ever thought he’d be as smart as I am. I told him he is already smarter. (true statement)
I love that my older son, Thomas, has started his own grassroots effort to pick up litter around our neighborhood and on the beach in Quogue. I love that his passion inspired others to join us.
I love that he has a countdown app on his phone and was tracking the days until two big events in his life 1. The Taylor Swift concert (which was AMAZING!) and the mid-term elections. Now, this is interesting because he truly cares about the mid-term elections. He cares about people’s rights, our country, and democracy. He built me a powerpoint on the people running in our area so I would be informed on election day. I would be hard pressed to find a registered voter who cares more about the mid-term elections than Thomas.
I am honored that Thomas would spend his Saturday morning helping me create a dessert table for a Kentucky Derby Party and that he can appreciate the importance of the details.
But, I am writing this blog, not to mommy brag, because I bet your kids are great too, but because I wanted to share what I love most about my boys, they are so funny! I don’t mean they know I a knock-knock joke funny, I mean they have a real sense of humor that can bring me to tears. And, those moments, like the smaller more impromptu interactions are my favorite. I love that they understand my sense of humor too and can enjoy the banter.
Here are a few things that make me smile every time.
For those 600lb Life fans, if you see Jackson, ask him to imitate Dr. Now. It is spot on.
Jackson can also imitate me too. I greet him with a “Hi Angel!” because that is how my Grandma used to greet me. He can capture the essence of my voice perfectly. Ask my good friend, Kimberly.
I love that I can joke with Jackson before a sporting event and say, “No one cares if you have fun, it’s more important that you win!” And that we can laugh together about the insanity of some of the parents. The parents who have the “YOU MUST WIN” attitude. We laugh that perhaps the fact that the kids are 12 years old somehow got lost.
I can appreciate Jackson’s sense of humor in the picture “with” his brother on the first day of school last fall. While funny, there is an undercurrent of love, because he knows that picture every year is important to me. (Please note my personal progress is not making him get “dressed up” anymore.)
When Jackson arrives home with a score of 100 on a test, I can say in my most serious voice, “Jackson, you must do better. Wasn’t there a bonus question? You aren’t going to get into Harvard with grades that low.” I love the smile on his face because he knows I think he’s brilliant.
Last year in the Hamptons, I went to my favorite store, Imrie. I purchase this fabulous camouflage jacket. It looks amazing with my white jeans and a Brown belt and Brown shoes.
Thomas says to me “Camo isn’t cool.”
I reply “Camo is cool. I look amazing.”
We go to grab lunch at a restaurant.
Thomas to the hostess “2 for lunch, my mom and me but you probably can’t see her because she is wearing camo.”
On another occasion…
Thomas, who is in High School, says to me “Have you ever take an AP (Advanced Placement) class?”
I reply, in a voice of total confusion “Have we met? Why would I take a hard class when an easier option was available? I may be terrible at math, but I can figure out my sales commission to the penny. That’s all the math I need to know, and it has served me well in life.”
If you call Thomas on his cell, and it goes to voicemail the recording says “Hey, what’s up? (very long silent pause) Just kidding…
I know that it is his voicemail, but I fall for it EVERY TIME! I start talking right after the “Hey, what’s up?” launching into whatever I was going to tell him.
If I were to share some advice to a new mom, I’d say the best moments are the small ones, the ones that catch you by surprise. The ones that make you laugh and smile. Don’t get caught up in the idea of being the “perfect mom” that’s isn’t possible. Focus on being in the moment and enjoying the time you spend with your children.
Happy Mother’s Day!